E- Zine - May 2005


What’s Gloria up to with CoachVille?
After an amazing six months of volunteering, GLORIA AUTH gets a well-deserved promotion to Community Coach! If you've been to her classes, you know that she has grace and style and a wonderful caring nature. Hurray for us!! Visit our community by clicking here.

Join CoachVille Free: As Community Coach, I invite you to join CoachVille, the largest association of coaches worldwide. CoachVille is an on-line community for coaching, business training and personal development. It’s free to join at http://www.cvcommunity.com/?af=321. One of many great freebies is 500 coaching/business/personal development forms.

Tips to Outclass Your Competition – Stop Office Gossip

Office gossip can be ruthless and can create tension, animosity and organizational dysfunction. Rumors spread out of control quickly and zap productivity. Stop rumors dead in their tracks by dealing immediately with those responsible for the rumors.

This story by Dr. Robert Schuller shared in Positive Minute paints the gossip picture very clearly. Once there was a Catholic priest who made calls regularly in the home of a young widow. Somebody started passing a rumor. Some busybody began to be suspicious. Two ladies "put two and two together" and began to gossip. Suddenly the young widow died and the community was informed that she had been secretly sick with cancer. Only her priest knew about it. He came regularly to pray for her and to help her. But someone with a dirty mind had started talking. The two ladies who were responsible for it all came to the priest and said, "We are sorry, truly sorry. Why didn't you tell us, Father?" (A priest or a minister frequently cannot defend himself without violating somebody else's confidence.) The priest answered, "All right, if you're sorry, take this feather pillow, go to the top of the hill, and let the feathers fly where the wind will carry them." And they did. When they came back with their empty pillowcase they said, "Father, we have done this. Now, will you forgive us?" The priest answered, "Not until you go out and pick up every feather and put them all back in the sack and bring it back to me." They said, "But that is impossible, Father. The winds have blown the feathers to the four corners." To which he replied, "So it is with your words."

When you are talking about someone, ask yourself what your intention is in sharing the information. If it’s to make someone look bad, or an attempt to make you look good, it’s gossip. To gossip diminishes your credibility and integrity. Be assertive and discourage gossip by using these lines when someone gossips to you.

“I’m uncomfortable talking about xxx when she’s not around. Let’s wait till she can join us in this discussion.” or “Did xxx ask you to share that with me?” or “Gee, I found xxx to be very cooperative. Maybe you should give her another chance.”

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The Coach’s Corner – What does it mean to leave a legacy?

With the passing of Pope John Paul II, there has been much talk about legacy. He touched the hearts of many and will be remembered as a strong, humble, spiritual leader. Rev. Billy Graham said, “He’ll go down in history as the greatest of our modern Popes.”

What does it mean to leave a legacy? Your legacy is the expression – in terms of your being and doing – of your life’s primary message. Your legacy - if connected to your mission, vision, purpose, and values - pulls you forward. By living out these things, you create a legacy.

Your legacy does not define you. You define your legacy by creating a strong personal foundation, choosing your path, and following your path. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does!” – William James

Coaching questions:
  • What does it mean to leave a legacy?
  • If I stay on my present path, what legacy will I leave?
  • What legacy would I like to leave?
  • What is my purpose in this life?
Have you ever thought about defining your values, your purpose, and your legacy statement? As your coach, I can help you with this. If you would like to see your life from a different picture, we can co-create a vision that will have you playing a much bigger game. Call today for your no-obligation, coaching session. This 30-minute confidential session will give you the experience of coaching. To schedule your session, call 405-341-3216.

Quotes of the Month

"When was the last time your possibilities gave you goose bumps?"
         --- Ben Feldman

"People with small minds talk about other people. People with average minds talk about events. People with great minds talk about ideas."
         --- Anonymous

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