E- Zine - October 2005



Tips to Outclass Your Competition – Be an “End Gossip” Leader

Gossip can ruin lives, split families, and affect company profit. Left unchecked, gossip can quickly spiral out of control. When you gossip, it makes you look unprofessional. If you listen to gossip, remember, if they gossip to you, they will gossip about you. Check your gossip quotient at www.EndGossip.com. Lead a gossip-free life by following and encouraging the Triple Filter Test of Truth, Goodness, and Usefulness.

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Before telling me anything, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test" Socrates replied.

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "Actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "You want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "If what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

The Coach’s Corner – Change and Choice

Self-awareness is the key to having the life you want. Wouldn’t you love to LOVE to wake up every morning to greet the day? What would it take for that to happen?

Coaching questions:
  • Tomorrow, if you could do anything you want, what would it be?
  • Visualize the benefits of your goal?
  • What one step can you take to do this?
  • Who can support you? Life is about change and choices. A coach can help you design a life that you love. Call today for your no-obligation, coaching session. This 30-minute confidential session will give you the experience of coaching. To schedule your session, call 405-341-3216.

    Quotes of the Month

    "The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek"
             --- Joseph Campbell

    "Stay away from negative people, they steal your dreams and sap your energy".
             --- Les Brown

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